Making the choice.

Being happy is not an end result. It's not a place you get by doing other things. Happiness is a conscious effort.

Everyone is going to have their bad days and they are going to effect us differently. Sometimes we need to vent or blow off steam to deal with our feelings. But the sky is falling mentality is just that, a chosen state of mind. If we continually think that we are living out Murphy's law then we are perpetuating the cycle. The best favor we can do ourselves when things get rough is to be grateful for what we still have left. Choosing to be happy isn't easy, but it sure beats living in a fog of misery.

What do we get out of being unhappy? Does it satisfy? Fulfill? Help? Comfort? Anything? Most likely not, and if it does accomplish any of these things then they are usually temporary. Why do we sacrifice feeling good to feel sorry for ourselves? That question is answered differently for each of us.

I think the worst thing we can do is find company for our misery. If you take a look around you and all you see are people unhappy with their lives it's time to make some changes. This leaves you two options. 1.) talk to the people around you and find out why they are so unhappy. Discuss how you can help them and in turn ask for help for yourself. 2.) if these people are unwilling to make changes and choose to fix their situations then maybe it's time for you to find some new friends.

You can't make other people be happy, you cannot force others to enjoy life, look at the bright side or just let things go anymore that you can make them eat food they hate. You can however, choose to be happy yourself and hope they will see your improved state of mind and follow suit.

No matter how many bad days, shitty jobs, miserable bosses, crappy life circumstances or whatever else you can choose to let it effect your whole life or take it for what is really is - a test. How are you going to score?